The incredibly true adventures of a travel loving kid at heart who just became both an MBA and a recent widow. Navigating widowhood is the hardest thing I've ever done. Come along for the bumps in the journey.
6.08.2006
My Grams...
There's been very little news from Germany about my grandmother... she's not woken up, but she's also not on any machines... I'm torn, because if she's going to pass away (which i'm being told is inevitable in this situation) then i really don't want it dragged out for weeks and weeks while she lay in a hospital bed... on the other hand, I really would like, at this point, for my mother to make it over there so she can say her goodbyes while her mom is still alive... People are torn on the topic of whether people in a coma are aware of their surroundings... and I really don't know what to believe, but I told my mom to make sure my cousin tells my grandma out loud that my mom is on her way... if she's at all aware, i know she'll hold out until my mom gets there... my mom and i had a discussion the other night that there is some comfort in the fact that when she passes, my brother will be there to greet her... and maybe if he's lucky, she'll make him lunch... because she's an amazing cook and he's an amazing eater... lol
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You too, Raphie, are amazing.
I went through something similar with my Grandmother in 2004 and I know it's painful. She got really sick in February, seemed to recover a few months later, but then took sick again. She wasn't in a coma but she was definitely on borrowed time. My Mom went back home to be with her and stayed for a month. I remember calling her and talking to her for about a minute for the last time. I will always be grateful for that last moment with her. And my Mom is grateful that she was able to spend those last days with her. If your Mom can go to Germany, she should, because it will be a sad but she will always be glad she went. I can't say I know "exactly" what you're going through, but I've been down a similar path and I send you my prayers and thoughts. And just like my Grandfather was there to meet my Grandmother, I know Nick will be there to greet your Grandmother. And they'll have a big feast! (Maybe my Grandparents can come over? :) )
that's a nice thought of them enjoying lunch together raph.
my heart is with you, you know that.
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